Questions & Answers

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1. What happens during a call?
2. Are empathy calls always focused on the difficult?
3. Is this therapy?
4. What is the basis of empathy buddy calls?
5. What can compassionate communication do for me?

What happens during a call?

Take this imaginary journey through what an empathy call might be like.

Before the time for our empathy buddy call, I take five minutes to center myself. I breath in my value of connection, presence, and focus. I breath out tension, alienation, and scatteredness. I hone in on my intention to enter into the dance of compassionate conversation that leads to empathic beauty. I sense my need for well-being, hope, and whatever else is alive for me in the moments before the call. I am feeling a mixture of eagerness and calm.

The phone rings, and you are on the other end. Your voice indicates the possibility of stress or whatever is really alive in you in the moment. You tell me you are hopeful about our time together. I call you back and if you have not booked sessions in advance, we take care of the charge for the call by entering your credit card information. I ask you what is alive for you. I let you know what is alive for me and we begin, questions and guesses at feelings and core values and needs, roll plays, honesty. You make shifts from disconnect, blame, shame, anger, frustration to connection, hope or whatever is really alive in you. I beam with satisfaction at the depth of our connection and at your self-connection. Your voice is resonant. We confirm our next appointment and say goodbye.

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Are empathy calls always focused on the difficult?

No. Part of the joy of life is celebration and gratitude. We take the time to balance difficulty and genuine mourning, which is a part of life, with feelings that we enjoy when our needs and values are satisfied. It is in fact my intention to begin each empathy buddy call with mournings and celebrations that are alive in you when we begin our time together.

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Is this therapy?

No. I am not a therapist or counselor. I am a communicator with a language of life that allows for greater connection and satisfaction. We can share this language in empowering sessions.  If you have problems that are overwhelming or beyond my ability to stay with, I will make a referral to an appropriate person or agency including licensed therapists who are skilled in Compassionate Communication.

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What is the basis of empathy buddy calls?

Empathy buddy calls stem from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, a book by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. Nonviolent Communication is also called NVC and Compassionate Communication. You can find out more about Nonviolent Communication at the website: www.cnvc.org.  For a quick look at Marshall Rosenberg talking about NVC, go to YouTube.

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What can compassionate communication do for me?'

Bridget Belgrave, a co-creator of the Nonviolent Communication dance floors, asks eight questions that focus on the core of what compassionate communication is all about. As you answer yes to any of these questions, you are ready for compassionate communication and the empathy buddy call.

Would you like to be honest without hurting people?
Would you like to be heard to your complete satisfaction?
Would you like to handle conflict with confidence?
Would you like to transform anger into positive communication?
Would you like to never hear blame or criticism again?
Would you like to inspire willing cooperation?
Would you like to deepen your good relationships?
Would you like to enjoy people?

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